I wrote a whole post about this topic, which is quite self-explanatory from the title itself, only to realize that I’ve already covered this subject 4 years ago. Little did I know back then, that things will become worse in this period. I wonder whether I’ll come back to this post in a few years and feel the same way. Hopefully not.

Natural beauty is slowly dying – I’m sure you’ve probably heard this expression a lot. Indeed, the more it goes, the more people, or, to be more precise, women, opt for numerous surgeries, injections and tonnes of others procedures that will help them look “beautiful, fresh and young”, instead of accepting themselves the way they are. No one wants to have different features anymore, everyone wants to have the ideally proportionate body and face, the perfect nose, lips, cheekbones, the new trendy foxy eyes etc. When you look at these girls, you don’t see humans anymore. Just plastic dolls with blank expressions and unrealistic appearances that look totally fake. But somehow that doesn’t stop thousands people from getting their faces and bodies done.

Other people often ask themselves, if these surgeries rarely look actually good, why do millions of women still voluntarily have them? Because they see these procedures as the only solution to their one big problem – insecurity. Somehow lots of women, especially young women, believe that they’re not good enough. That in order to be loved, successful and happy they need to look a certain way, fit the modern beauty standards, be perfect. That if they didn’t have the few wrinkles, the bags under their eyes, the thin lips, small breasts, everything would be different, their lives would be so much better. So, it all starts from deciding to get rid of the one small imperfection that has been causing them so much self-doubt for years. But then they suddenly realize that the procedure is done, yet nothing has changed. They still feel the same way. What’s next? Another surgery, and then another one. And this circle goes unbroken. At the end of the day, the person looks nothing like their old self, and not in a good way.

There’s another reason why women become a victim of plastic surgeries. When something bad happens in their life (usually a breakup or a divorce), they decide to become “the best version of themselves”, to glow up, so that their ex will know what they’ve lost. So the process begins. It’s funny though how their idea of the best version of themselves merely starts and ends with their appearance. Dying hair, losing weight, having fillers, changing style. But even in that case they still end up feeling a hole inside. Why so? Cause they never paid attention to their inner world in the first place. Their glow up didn’t include working on their character, getting rid of bad habits and obtaining new and healthy ones, getting new skills, reading books, trying to find inner balance and happiness. The cosmetic surgeries try to make up for it, but they never do.

But you know what, I’m not really blaming anyone. I know perfectly well that it’s a trap. It’s a new addiction, just like alcoholism or drug addiction. It starts from simply taking care of yourself. Girls start watching all these influencers that claim that you need to have a morning and nighttime skincare routines, that includes at least half a dozen creams and oils and other products, that will make your skin look amazing. But they don’t, they never do, cause the beauty companies don’t really want you to have naturally good skin or hair. In that case, they’d all be bankrupt. Instead, they want to give you just a little bit of improvement, so you’ll have to stick to their product forever and become their constant costumer. When these products don’t work, people start doing the “innocent” procedures, meaning the face massages with special devices and serums. Then they start injecting all kind of crap in their skin. Then they move on to completely changing their features.

It’s a topic that has been talked and discussed hundreds of times, but recently I realized it from anew when videos with beauty lifehacks start popping up on my feed, and I for some reason started watching all of them. Suddenly I started feeling myself not beautiful and taken enough care of. I even bought a few serums and hair products, because some girls over there promised that it will change my life. But guess what, the more I started “looking after myself” the worse I felt about my appearance. That’s when I realized that it’s a trap, when you start constantly thinking about yourself in an obsessive way. And the worst part is that no matter what you do, you still feel like you’re not good enough. I now understand that the term “victim of plastic surgeries” is in fact very true. Those people aren’t guilty, as they’re simply victims of this huge mechanism that hypnotizes and brainwashes them.

To end these long wonderings, I want to make a statement. I don’t have anything against taking care of your body. The famous Latin phrase says: “Mens sana in corpore sano”, which means “a healthy mind in a healthy body”. I truly believe that we need to look after our temple. But it shouldn’t become an obsession, it shouldn’t become the most important thing people care or worry about. A person’s appearance shouldn’t be the most prominent and essential thing about them, cause they have so much more inside that are far more essential. Same with surgeries. Theoretically, I am not against them. If someone has, for instance, a big nose, almost no lips or anything else they don’t like, I don’t say that people shouldn’t fix it if they can. What I am against is doing dozens of procedures and ending up looking exactly the same, losing their original and authentic features that make people unique. The sad part is that all these fake beauty advocates make fun of those who choose natural beauty, claiming that they’re slobby, lazy and unattractive just because they’re against all these new beauty standards.

So, my last advice is – don’t feel like you have to change yourself in order to be loved or to be happy. I know this sounds cliché, but you are beautiful just the way you are, even with imperfections. Everyone has them, even those who has done surgeries and fillers, that’s why they constantly re-do those procedures, because it never ends up being perfect.