Despite repeating that Christmas isn’t about presents or materialistic things, we surely all still care about them. And that’s understandable, because it’s the easiest way to show people our love and affection. Not everyone is able to express their feelings through words or actions, so gifts are a great gesture, always coming to the rescue.

However, giving presents can be quite tricky, even when it comes to our closest people, about whom we seem to know every little details. Sometimes we can see the disappointment on their faces and it truly is devastating, not because we feel sorry for our money or energy wasted, but because we truly wanted to cheer that person up and give something that they will actually love.

So, since I was out of topics for this week, I decided to share some tips on how to give the best presents. And by saying ‘best‘ I don’t mean the most expensive or luxurious, as I guess everyone’s aware that a good gift doesn’t have to be super fancy in order to be loved. That’s just a little clarification.

1. Give what they want, not you. This one is really important to remember, because we tend to make the same mistake over and over again. When we like something a lot, we get mistaken by thinking that others will absolutely like those items as well. And that’s what he first step when we mess up. So, this time, instead of think about your likes and dislikes, think of the other person and choose what they will love, even if you yourself aren’t a fan of that thing. But the trickiest part: sometimes, knowing that, for instance, your sister loves journals and uses them often, you’ll think that journal is the perfect gift. But in reality your sister may already have 20 new journals, with no room to keep them. In reality, she may be wanting a new book of her favorite author or perfume. That’s why the next step is…

2. Be attentive and listen. I mentioned this in one of my previous posts, that before Christmastime arrives, start being a little more attentive and write down what people want. You’ll definitely have such conversations and they’ll be your perfect cheat-codes for the holidays. But make sure to check whether that person already got the necklace of their dream or not. Not be too straightforward though, otherwise they’ll know why you’re asking, and you’ll ruin a good surprise.

3. Add personal details. The whole point of presents is to show how much that person means to you. And let’s all agree, that giving someone a great purse doesn’t really tell that, does it? So, don’t forget about adding some personal details or attributes, that will show that you actually care enough and know them well. It can be an inside joke written on the wrapping paper, a small card with warmest wishes. Or a little box of their favorite chocolates, whatever will delight them.

4. Make a present yourself. Of course, you can’t learn how to knit a sweater in one day. And you’ll probably make a mess if you try. You can, however, make something very simple, yet meaningful and cute. For example, a small Christmas tree ornament, a chocolate ball with cocoa powder and marshmallows, or maybe a little photo album or a collage with your mutual pictures. You would love to receive something like this, wouldn’t you? Same will your friends and family.

5. Give memories. Instead of giving a materialistic present, you can also give something much more precious – a chance to make amazing memories. Whether it would be tickets to your friend’s favorite singer, a little trip to a beautiful place in nature, a hot air balloon certificate, anything. You can buy one for yourself as well, that way it will be more fun, as you’d get to spend great time together and bond even more. Just remember the first tip here – give something that they want, not you.