Let’s discuss yet another interesting topic, about which people often have discussions but can’t come to a united conclusion.

Fate or free will, what do you believe in? Do you think the scripts of our lives are already “written“, or do you reckon that we create our lives ourselves? This is one of those numerous matters, that I think can’t have one objective truth. For each person life looks the way they believe, and no one can change that but the person themselves.

I personally believe in destiny. I am sure, that if something is supposed to happen, it will no matter what. And vice versa. I believe that things have their reasons for happening, and we don’t always see that, at least not straight away. Later we may realize why certain things went right or wrong, and in situations like these I believe in fate even more.

Lots of people think that believers in destiny are just lazy people who don’t want to take control and do anything, but that’s not true. At least for me. I never say that you should just sit on your couch and wait for the perfect opportunities. Though, believe me, sometimes that happens too. How many stories do you know of people receiving something great out of thin air? You’ve at least heard of a couple of such examples. But that’s not the point. I reckon, that you should always do something, take the first steps towards your dreams or goals. For instance, if you want to become a famous actor, you don’t just sit and wait for the director to find and cast you. You start investigating that sphere, learn acting, start auditioning etc. And if you are supposed to become an actor, you definitely will. The road won’t always be easy, but you’ll feel that you are on the right path. However, if you’re not supposed to become an actor, no matter how good you are, no matter what you do, you’ll only face closed doors. But it isn’t a bad thing, it’s just the universe’s way of saying that you were created for something else, something better. Our only job is to keep trying and never giving up.

I think it’s a little naive to think that we create our lives ourselves. We’re too small and stupid for that. No offense, but we are. And you know what else I realized? When you understand this simple truth, life becomes easier. Why do lots of people have anxiety and fears? Because we feel like we’re in control, and we’re not doing enough. It’s really tough, thinking that you are the one responsible for things that happen in your life. And it’s even tougher, when you see that things happen with or without your consent and that you’re powerless to change anything. But once you realize, that you’re not the one in charge, you’ll feel yourself free, like you’ve been given a second breath.

I said that we may feel powerless in this case, but in reality we’re not. There are lots of things that depend on us – our reactions, feelings and attitude. Things will carry on happening, but it’s up to us to see it in a positive aspect or a negative one. We’re not the directors of our lives, but we’re responsible for its quality, colors, atmosphere. Imagine this like a movie – you’re not the screenwriter, so you can’t influence the plot. You are the color corrector. It’s up to you, whether the movie will turn out in dark shades, like a horror, or in warm tones, which will make the film one of those amazing comfort movies that you constantly want to rewatch.

I always say, that I imagine life like a quiz on a magazine page. If you’ve ever done such quizzes, you’ll understand what I mean. All the possible scenarios with the existing questions, answers and results are already printed on the page, so you can’t make up a new answer to the question. You can however make a choice among all these variations and choose the life path you feel the most comfortable with. This is called the perfect balance – you still have free will, but within a certain amount of varieties. I really hope I managed to explain what I mean.