“Dolce far niente” is an Italian concept which basically means “the sweetness of doing nothing“. There’s actually a trend in Instagram with such a sound, and as I was making a video with it, I started thinking about this concept a little more deeply.
I don’t know why, but we, people equate “doing nothing” with laziness and procrastination and always see it in a negative aspect. Of course, if you spend your whole time being lazy and not doing anything at all, it can become a problem. But why do people judge each other, including themselves, when they want to be a little lazy every now and then?
Nowadays, in this rushing world everyone’s doing something, going somewhere, everyone’s got plans and behaves like a president of a country, who constantly has the most serious meetings and events and never has a single minute for leisure. But in reality people just don’t like to rest. How do they spend their weekends, day offs or holidays? They dedicate that time to doing something of “high importance“. You’ll rarely see a person taking time off his work for just…nothing. They’ll take a day off for a wedding, a trip, a birthday etc. I’m not saying it’s bad, I’m just trying to understand why we never learned to prioritize our rest, comfort and well-being, at least from time to time.
And even when we do something, we want to do sth else as well. Going for a walk? We need to talk on the phone as well. Having a lunch? We need to watch a movie with it. Watching a movie? We can scroll our phones simultaneously. Meeting a friend in a cafe? We still manage to chat with other people online. If we stay alone for a while, we do everything to fill that “emptiness” with some extra noises or activities. When a person’s sick, they still force themselves to do sth. If they spend 1-2 days in their beds, doing nothing, they feel extremely guilty for “wasting their lives“. While they perfectly do it anyway with constantly burdening themselves with not pleasant tasks.
There was a time, when doing nothing was a privilege. Now it’s a punishment. Not for everyone but still. Though sometimes, when people spend one day relaxing and not doing anything specific, they understand how good it is, how much it can help your all your healths (I mean psychological, mental, physical, emotional). Then they swear, that they’ll find some time to dedicate it to their self-care. But once they’re out of “cage“, they restart running like that Roadrunner from the old cartoon, and completely forget about their promise. Same happened with quarantine and first lockdown, when people finally realized what it means to actually have a proper rest, to spend time alone, or with family, to make some art and crafts. But who remembers about that now? Right, no one.
I think we all would have been in a much better place, if we didn’t put so much pressure on us. To be better than yesterday, to be stronger, smarter, more successful than everyone else. To work hard every single day. We need to understand that sometimes it’s not only okay, but also necessary to get lazy and procrastinate. It gives us time to refill our energy, to recharge, gain new powers. How do you think our phones or other technology would work, if we didn’t charge them at all? Do you think they’d last long? I highly doubt it. So, if we care about our technologies, want them to function better and longer, why don’t we care about ourselves? I reckon, we’re a little more important than our phones and computers.
So never feel guilty, if you feel like doing nothing. Laziness and procrastination are as good or as bad as hardworking. You just need to keep things in a balance. Cause everything in this world has its own special place in our lives, so we need to embrace and enjoy every aspect of it.