If you haven’t known yet, I’m a very nostalgic person. No matter how good my present is, there’s a part of me, that always looks back and loves remembering the good old days.
Same happened a few days ago. The weather was perfect for that – it had been snowing nonstop for the past two days. This kind of weather makes you want to cuddle, feel extra cozy and just get involved into a movie, a game, or in this case, the past. I started watching my old photos, from childhood and early teenage years. And of course, it made me think about not only our past, but present and future as well.
One of the things that I keep noticing is the simplicity of life. And my heart aches, knowing that we’ll never have that, the joy from little thing, that feeling of being united, the happiness over sth “insignificant“. Life wasn’t rich then, every household looked the same, there were no luxuries. But people were so much happier. I don’t talk about me, because, of course, kids are always happy (well in most cases). But from the look of everyone else I saw in the photos, I can tell for sure, that they were happy.
Looking back to your life has so many benefits. Your past can be the perfect teacher for your present and future. It becomes a great reminder, of how things and life should be. You see you true self, way before starting wearing all these social masks in order to please everyone, in order to fit in. You remember your dreams, all your passions and it kind of gives you a wake up slap. You remember the right path for you and it can become the greatest motivation to follow that road.
You see true friendships, true love, you see fun and joy. You see that even our parents, who were adults, had jobs, each had their own lives, still had great friends, people who were always by their sides, on whom they could rely. It reminds you of how a real friendship should be. Not the popular opinion that most people have nowadays, that grown ups don’t have time for friendships and that it’s okay not seeing or talking to your close friends for weeks and months. In reality, we’re all alone, but too afraid to acknowledge and accept that. And these old photos can give you hope and belief in better future, in humanity, because that’s what we had, that’s what we were. And not hundreds of years ago, but just recently.
These memories will show you, that in order to have fun and enjoy your life, you don’t need to have extra luxuries, too much money or social status. You see the beauty of simplicity. You see cozy gatherings, people laughing, dancing, goofing around and not sitting still for hours and fighting over politics or whether vaccinations are good or bad. You see various people, people having different interests, lifestyles, mindsets, but you see a strange kind of harmony between them, because in reality nothing should matter for a good, human relationship. That was the real tolerance or acceptance, not the pseudo-tolerance we have nowadays.
So, if you’re feeling down, having a depression or complaining about your life, I highly recommend rewatching your old memories. It gives you a strange, but good kind of realization, that your life is so full, that it doesn’t suck. Because your life isn’t only this current period, it’s the whole thing. And the whole thing is great. With happy and sad moments, with changes, new things, lots of people coming and going, lots of events happening.
Last but not least, by recalling your past, you start appreciating the present more. You know why? Because when you look back, you mostly see the good things, the fun times. You think, that you were so happy, because there was nothing really to be unhappy about. All your problems that you had years ago seem so insignificant and little. It makes you want to go back and slap yourself, telling not to worry, because years later it won’t matter.
And you understand, that the same is happening now. You torture yourself with some “problems“, that probably exist just in your mind, you don’t appreciate what you have, thinking that it’s not enough. Remember, that years later, when you watch the photos of this period, you’ll feel the same way and pity that you didn’t enjoy life as much, as you could, that you weren’t grateful for what you have now. Don’t let that happen. Live with good memories, and not regrets. That’s all.