Actually, priorities can’t be wrong, because they’re strongly subjective, and what’s subjective can’t be right or wrong. If you chose something for your life, it means that you believe in it’s being good for you. So why did I pick such a title? I think you’ll understand throughout this post.
I’ve talked about a similar topic in another post, but I mostly concentrated on friendship of nowadays in there. Now I want to analyze more broadly. About our life choices. Recently, I’ve been coming across many articles or accounts in instagram, tiktok etc, that are “motivational and inspirational“. Why in quotation marks? Because it’s not really like that. Those pages don’t try to motivate or inspire us to have a better life, to make the right life decisions, to believe in your dreams, to be a better person. No. They try to insert some very wrong values and priorities in us. You’ve probably seen these types of posts, they urge us to: only concentrate on our goals (which aren’t actually ours), to work hard, work 24/7, to invest in ourselves, learn to manipulate everyone and sell ourselves, cut ourselves from all our friends and relatives (people who presumably try to hold us back from achieving something high, not even knowing what exactly), to never leave the gym in order to impress others with our great bodies, to always be on a diet for the same reason, to buy lots of courses of all those coaches, telling us the secrets of becoming a millionaire… If everything written above is true, our world would be full of great looking millionaires, who are absolutely healthy and happy. But as you may have noticed, it’s quite far from the truth. The amount of illnesses, chronic depressions, suicides, unhappy and exhausted people is just getting bigger and bigger. What does it mean? That all these accounts, gurus and coaches are simply fake, and they just want more people believe in them and get in the hamster wheel that only stops once: when you die.
I’m not surprised at those pages and their brainwashing plans, because that’s how they make their living. I’m surprised at all those thousands and millions of people, who follow and like those posts, who blindly believe in everything they see, who change their lives in order to correspond to that “successful lifestyle“. And I’m sure if any of those people read this post, they’d consider me a loser, a toxic person who just doesn’t have what they have and is envious. But what do they really have? They don’t even have their own brains to think for themselves and understand that not everything that is written in internet is the absolute truth. That in order to be happy and successful they don’t need to spend their whole time and energy in offices, trading their lives for a modern type of slavery. That you don’t need to create a new personality and sell yourself like a product in a market.
These evil powers, because that’s what they are, pure evil, don’t want us to enjoy our lives, to follow our own paths, to have good friends and family. They want us to become isolated and easy to manipulate, they want us to become zombies, infinitely stuck in the matrix, constantly chasing something without even understanding that there’s no such thing as perfection. They use some cliche words and expressions (like right mindset, motivation, discipline etc.) as their hook or bait, so that we’ll agree with these seemingly good words and accept everything that is written after, even if it’s completely nonsense. And if you follow those accounts, you’ll notice that there’s absolutely no mention of reading books, learning new things (of course if it’s not their course on “how to become a millionaire in a week“), expanding our horizons, they never tell you to work on yourself, on your bad sides and flaws, to try to become a better person, better friend, better husband/wife, parent/child/sibling. They’ll never teach you how to be in harmony with yourself and with the world, how to actually feel happy…
They don’t need that. They don’t want you to develop as a person, to have your own worldview and opinion. They don’t actually want you to be independent and satisfied. They don’t want you to have close people by your side, because otherwise it would be hard to lie and sell their products to you. All they need is an army of zombies, who will do whatever they want. They insert all these priorities in people. That’s why I call them wrong. Because it’s not the true priorities of people, it’s simply a brainwash. A promise for a great life and huge success. And thousands of people take that bait.
The most ridiculous thing is that these pages or articles contradict themselves so much. They tell you that in order to be successful you have ghost everyone and not care about what people think of you, not compare yourself with others (which is true, except for the ghosting everyone part), but one sentence later they claim that you need to work out 7 days a week in order to make everyone jealous with your amazing body. They advertise people who’ll help you grow your audience with 1 million followers, but they themselves have only 50K. But people blindly don’t notice that.
Now it’s time for an important disclaimer! I’m not talking about not working or achieving your dreams. It’s okay to work, to go to gym, to work hard for your future, to have goals and fight for them. It’s absolutely okay to do all that stuff. Just don’t make your jobs or having the “perfect body” your main priority in this life, abandoning everything and everyone else, just because an unknown page in instagram says that that’s what you should do to be successful. Follow your own path, even if it is different from others. Do what makes you happy, and not something that is supposed to make you happy. Listen to your soul and heart, they are your true gurus and teachers, they know much better what they want. Find that one thing and work hard for that, for your own dream, not everyone else’s. But the most important is, do not forget to have fun. I mean really, that’s what our lives are for. I’m not talking about sth crazy like parties, drugs, alcohol 24/7, no. But remember to actually live your lives instead of working for a “better life” in the far future. Because life isn’t in the future, it’s right here, right now. Live it, enjoy it! Don’t abandon your friends and family just because you’re busy “building your dream life“, a life that everyone else will be envious of. Because when you finish up the building, you’ll notice that you’re all alone. And if that building collapse one day, there’ll be no one to shelter and comfort you. Only those fake motivational accounts, that you’ll find blank one day. Just think about it and make your life choices right and pick your own priorities that will be great and right for you. Build your own life, where you’re in control and you decide what’s essential and good for you, not the internet or society.